'You get used to the Quadriplegia'

The phrase struck me: 'you get used to the quadriplegia'.  Such a stunning statement. 

Quadriplegia, I needed to remind myself, is a form of paralysis that effects the use of arms and legs.  Stated more explicitly, a quadriplegic cannot use his or her arms or legs: no movement.  Permanently.  At this point, there's no cure. The condition cannot be undone and can lead to a shorter life expectancy. 

'You get used to it' is a soul settled, a heart having grieved losses.

'You get used to it' is the acceptance of total physical dependency on another.

'You get used to it' is a future reimagined from a hospital bed.

'You get used to it,' is an expression of a new spiritual normal.

Permanence and acceptance are not the same thing. The speaker was, and is, without use the of her limbs as long as she's this side of heaven.  That's a fact. She didn't choose the life she has, yet this is the life she has.   She's articulately noted elsewhere the acceptance of her permanence.
'You get used to the quadriplegia, but you don't get used to the pain.' 

I began to understand the context of 'you get used to it.' It was a setup for a 'you don't get used to the pain.' I wondered about the separation of the loss and pain.  Why did she feel a contrast needed?

While she can't choose if she uses a wheelchair to get around, she can choose her willingness to use it and her attitude toward the chair. While she can't choose if her husband must dress her, she can choose her gratitude for his willingness to serve her. 

Both quadriplegia and pain are permanent and yet only one she's gotten used to.  There are some things you aren't supposed to get used to: pain first among them.